HOW OFTEN DO WE PUSH AWAY OUR EMOTIONS?
ONCE A WEEK? ONCE A DAY? ONCE AN HOUR? MAYBE MORE? …
One of the greatest lessons I learned in my 20’s was when my husband – then boyfriend – was exasperated with me, snapped at me through the phone, “Would you quit yelling at me and just cry!”.. Wait, wut?… I was stopped in my tracks as if I ran into a brick wall. This new idea that someone was inviting me to experience and share my emotions with them had me confounded. During that time, I was feeling crushed under pressure and lonely far away from my family and my love. That began my re-discovery of my own emotions. I was a happy person, but I really had only 2 speeds Happy and fun, or mad and insecure. My heart was hard. I had for so long only chosen to hide from emotions or express them with frustration or anger, I didn’t know differently. I began, in the safety of his love and support, to explore how I felt about things. I questioned myself when I experienced a feeling and I became a student of myself. Often I had a really odd internal dialogue for a 20 something. I actually dug in, got interested and studied them. “Ooohh what IS THIS new feeling? Why am I feeling this? Is this because of what is happening right now?” When I couldn’t understand them, I would talk to my sweetheart about it. He would help me process it, and understand, still does. It was an awakening for me. Watershed.
What amazing things happened when I chose to experience the emotions I had! Instead of hiding them away to fester and later explode.
So, I encourage all of us, to allow yourself to experience your emotions. Feel them deeply. Feel your sorrow, your regret, your gratitude, your joy. Then learn and grow from them. Make yourself better through the experience of your emotional being.
What if when you were feeling really down and defeated you chose to take those moments to practice gratitude?
Science says it can do great things for you. It is the consistent practice of gratitude that provides you these benefits.
4.Increased Empathy and Reduced Aggression
Sounds like good enough reasons to me.
HOW CAN YOU MAKE GRATITUDE A HABIT?
If you are already journaling..(ahem)… Start including a few lines each day to what you are grateful for. Keep it up for 30 days. You’ll be glad!
Get a pad of sticky notes and each day list 3 – 5 things you are grateful for and put it in a place you see each day. Keep this up for 30 days to make it a habit!